diff --git a/src/components/NoteList/index.tsx b/src/components/NoteList/index.tsx
index ac2cbcc7..f76ed7f7 100644
--- a/src/components/NoteList/index.tsx
+++ b/src/components/NoteList/index.tsx
@@ -272,6 +272,20 @@ const NoteList = forwardRef(
               ) {
                 return
               }
+              // don't toast for routine connection failures (noisy and expected when relays are down/slow)
+              const r = reason.toLowerCase()
+              if (
+                r.includes('connection failed') ||
+                r.includes('econnrefused') ||
+                r.includes('econnreset') ||
+                r.includes('etimedout') ||
+                r.includes('timeout') ||
+                r.includes('network') ||
+                r.includes('enotfound') ||
+                r.includes('connection refused')
+              ) {
+                return
+              }
 
               toast.error(`${url}: ${reason}`)
             }
diff --git a/src/i18n/locales/de.ts b/src/i18n/locales/de.ts
index 40201c91..7e628ace 100644
--- a/src/i18n/locales/de.ts
+++ b/src/i18n/locales/de.ts
@@ -260,9 +260,9 @@ export default {
     Autoplay: 'Automatische Wiedergabe',
     'Enable video autoplay on this device':
       'Aktiviere die automatische Video-Wiedergabe auf diesem Gerät',
-    'Add 3 random relays to every publish': 'Relay-Liste mit 3 zufälligen öffentlichen Relays vorfüllen',
+    'Add 3 random relays to every publish': '3 zufällige Relays bei jedem Publish hinzufügen',
     'Add 3 random relays to every publish description':
-      'Zeigt 3 zufällige öffentliche Relays in der Publish-Relay-Liste (nicht angehakt), damit du sie optional für mehr Zensur-Resilienz auswählen kannst.',
+      'Fügt der Publish-Relay-Liste immer 3 zufällige öffentliche Relays hinzu. Bei AN sind sie standardmäßig ausgewählt; bei AUS erscheinen sie in der Liste, sind aber nicht angehakt, sodass du sie optional einbeziehen kannst.',
     'relayType_local': 'Lokal',
     'relayType_relay_list': 'Relay-Liste',
     'relayType_client_default': 'Client-Standard',
diff --git a/src/i18n/locales/en.ts b/src/i18n/locales/en.ts
index da8e94c8..dc0bf7fb 100644
--- a/src/i18n/locales/en.ts
+++ b/src/i18n/locales/en.ts
@@ -322,9 +322,9 @@ export default {
     General: 'General',
     Autoplay: 'Autoplay',
     'Enable video autoplay on this device': 'Enable video autoplay on this device',
-    'Add 3 random relays to every publish': 'Preload relay list with 3 random public relays',
+    'Add 3 random relays to every publish': 'Random relays in publish list',
     'Add 3 random relays to every publish description':
-      'Show 3 random public relays in the publish relay list (unchecked) so you can optionally include them for censorship resilience.',
+      'Always adds 3 random public relays to the publish relay list. When ON, they are selected by default; when OFF, they appear in the list but are unchecked so you can optionally include them.',
     'relayType_local': 'Local',
     'relayType_relay_list': 'Relay list',
     'relayType_client_default': 'Client default',